I don’t accept it anymore- the mind pulling its bullshit with me- on how I did it wrong, how i wasn’t good enough, how I didn’t figure it out, how I should have known better. I just don’t let the mind ramble on. I tell it very simply “Shut Up!!!”
That part of us, the inner critic is poison and needs to be treated like a toxic substance that should be expelled immediately from the mind. Do not entertain it for one second. Tell it to stop and keep telling it to stop until you find peace. I actually am a warrior with this- I do not believe in the kind way or the Zen way where one should just watch what the mind says. Why watch a total lie that keeps you bound? Why allow bombs to drop in your psyche? Why be hurt over and over?
Be the protective Mama Bear to your heart and mind. Do not let this negativity enter in. There is nothing good that comes from the inner critic. It DOES NOT help you be a better, more productive, more resilient person- it only brings you down. The Mama bear protects her young with fierce committment. She will lay down her life for her babies. Treat your heart and mind like little young babes, so innocent and open. They deserve to be held in a state of grace and loving kindness. The Mama Bear will not let mean angry thoughts kill them.
I know this may be hard to do because the inner critic is so hard wired into us. Become vigilant- this means be the watcher of your mind. When you are in crisis or stress- the inner critic becomes alive and will blame you for this. In no uncertain terms tell it to stop. You might have to do this over and over. Don’t ever let the inner critic win- it’s only goal is to tear you down. Stand Tall and tell it to shut the f*** up!